Think about it..
When we imagine the person we want to be, in those times where we beat the hell out of ourselves for not being that person, we imagine our perfect selves to be neat and organized or together in some undefined mysterious way; smart, beautiful, hard-working, always upbeat and pleasant, confident, we eat right, we work out, our abs are amazing.
And of course, we can’t let ourselves get carried away with dreaming about what could be without trotting out what is. We see ourselves as overweight, maybe lazy, not really all that smart, socially awkward. Our happy face sometimes feels put on for the benefit of others, we sneak too many snacks and treats, we don’t work out like we should, we don’t have the best education.. it’s all our fault. It’s all our fault. It’s all our fault.
So, who can blame anyone who has this cloud of hopelessness floating over them all the time. What are we going to do? It seems as though we’re just condemned to be this horrible version of ourselves and we have all kinds of good reasons to back it up.
But here’s the thing.
If you want to be someone who is on-time, then be on time. Figure out what is keeping you from being on time and fix it. But more importantly, think to yourself, I am always on time! That is the kind of person I am. If you want to be someone whose identity is that of a fitness specialist or someone others look to for fitness advice or encouragement – a resource even – then BE fit. Find out what is keeping you from being the fitter version of yourself and take care of it. But more importantly, tell yourself, I don’t do this exercise program because I want to be fit (someday), I do this because that is the kind of person I am. I am a FIT person and this is what we fit people do.
Do you see what I’m driving at here? You have to adopt the mindset of the kind of person you want to be. What does the fit you think about all the time? What kinds of thoughts do they shoo away and what kind of thoughts do they revel in? What does their Self-Talk sound like? Is it positive or negative?
When any of the situations, thoughts, interactions, foods, drinks, habits, or whatever else come up in our lives, we have to be willing to walk in the new version of ourselves that we want to be. That means, I don’t eat fast-food because it’s not who I am. That means, Of course I’m going to work out today – I always workout three (or four, or five?) times a week! That means, This might hurt right now, but I’m not the type of person to give up – I’ve never been that person and I’m not going to start now!
BE the person in thought
Be the person in action
Be… the person that you already are. Be the best version of yourself that you can be.